I Thought NLP was great Then I learned This.....

I Thought NLP Would Fix Everything—Until I Found the Real Power Source

My first experience with NLP was through a business owner I knew.
He was diving deep into the study—reading, applying, even teaching it in his business.

 His business did improve.

But his personal life? Still a mess.
Lawsuits. Conflict. Drama. Same pain, different vocabulary.

That made me question the whole thing. If this works, why isn’t it working?

Then I went to a Tony Robbins event.
Boom.

Massive shift.

It was like something woke up in me.

I saw real change. Growth. Energy. I was hooked.

But even then… something was missing.

 I Had the Faith, the Tools… and Still No Fuel

I had a strong faith.
I had success.
I had studied psychology, trained salespeople, built businesses, had a great marriage.

I wasn’t lost.

But I was… empty.

And at age 43, with all the knowledge and experience, why did it feel so hard to keep going?

I dug deeper. I studied more.

I became a Master Practitioner of NLP.
Master Practitioner of Time Line Therapy™.
Master Practitioner of Hypnotherapy.
More tools. More clarity. More insight.

But no spark.

You see, I was working the process… but the process wasn’t enough.
Because I hadn’t yet understood what had been driving me all along.

My Engine Was Fear, Disguised as Ambition

I didn’t realize how much of my life I’d been living from fear.

Not panic-in-the-corner fear—something sneakier.

• Fear of failure.
• Fear of being insignificant.
• Fear of losing control.
• Fear of....
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And that fear showed up as drive.
It pushed me to conquer, fix, achieve, overcome.

Overcome.
That was my word.

I thought the point was to win over my past. Beat the odds. Prove myself.

But fear-based motivation eventually runs dry.

I had successful businesses.
A strong marriage.
A wall full of certifications.

And I was still out of gas.

Then I Found the Real Breakthrough

In my deeper training, preparing to coach others, I uncovered something that changed everything:

NLP is a process—but the real power isn’t in the process.

It’s in the insight.

The process can create change, but it’s insight that transforms.

I started to see that I wasn’t broken.

I didn’t need to fix myself.
I needed to know myself.

And not in the abstract sense—"Who am I?"—but in the grounded sense of congruence.

I started living from what was already true:

That I was created on purpose, for a purpose.
And that purpose wasn’t a mystery I had to chase—it was a reality I could walk in daily.

You Don’t Find Your Purpose. You Live It.

Here’s what I’ve come to believe:

The real motivation in life doesn’t come from hunting for your purpose.
It comes from knowing you’re already in it.

It’s not a finish line.
It’s not a spotlight moment.
It’s the quiet, powerful rhythm of waking up each day and saying:

“I am enough. I am here. I’m going to walk in alignment with what I know today.”



Yes—set goals. Grow your skills. Grow your life and your job.
But understand your purpose unfolds over time, like a tapestry.
And even the messy threads—the losses, the failures, the doubts—they’re all part of the beauty.

The Knowing Is the Fuel

These days, I don’t run on fear.
I don’t push out of desperation.
I don’t conquer to prove anything.

I lead from a deep knowing.

• That I’m okay.
• That I’m not broken.
• That I’m walking in a story that’s unfolding, one day at a time.

And for me, that knowing is rooted in God.
Not just belief—but trust.
That I’m not here to perform, but to live, grow, and love well.

I used to think perfection was the goal.

Now I see: Perfection is a myth. Congruence is power.

Whether you’re in the peak or the pit, what matters most is this:

You know who you are.
You know you’re enough.
And you live like it—on purpose, from purpose.

I help people who have success find and  their purpose in their daily lives…. Why? because it is my purpose….Let’s talk! Jack Stanley B.C.C.